I heard my self using a snotty tone to Judge Prowse. I was put off by it. But then wondered where snottiness comes from. It comes from an attempt to be funny and companionable. And this striving stems from a sense that one is not secure of confident—it’s a lack of confidence. That one feels smaller than the world one is trying to keep up with. So a snotty tone is saying, I don’t feel I’m good enough.
Michael Winter, The Big Why.